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3 September 2020 – 10 things about your RETIREMENT

At noon on 10th September I am going to be announcing a special offer for members of my Retirement UK Facebook group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/RetirementUK/

If you are approaching retirement, recently retired, or struggling to know what to do with yourself in retirement, come and join us.

In the meantime, here’s a, not unrelated, brief video.  😊

Life-coaching provides support as you are making or managing changes.  My main focus is on mid-life career changes and making your retirement the best time of your lifeContact me if you wish to discuss how I can assist you.

26 August 2020 – Body type found!

3RO Shar Pei

Over the past four years, my weight had crept up gradually and, like most people, it only increased further once lockdown started. 

I have tried various diets over the decades, and I always struggled with knowing whether my “body-type” was endomorph, ectomorph, or mesomorph.

Eventually, I know my body-type was genetically inherited from my Mum. No matter what size or weight I am, like her, I always have a band of “relaxed” flesh around my middle. I like to think that it’s part of the reason our genes have survived. 

We always have a good handle available for firefighters to grab and thereby take us to safety.   

I have identified our body-type as “Shar-Pei” as that seems to be the image that best represents us, but the label is irrelevant. 

As a life-coach, I now know that the only way to make any change is by:

  1. Setting a clear and firm intention;
  2. Replacing bad habits with consistently positive actions, moving towards my goal;
  3. Celebrating each small step along the way.

In mid-May, inspired by Michael Mosley’s book “The 8-week Blood Sugar Diet”, I decided it was time for me to make a change. 

The first few days, while I was initially changing those old, comfortable habits, were by far the hardest. I traded Mr Kipling cakes and Dr Oetker pizzas for fresh, homemade, whole-foods and calorie counting.

I have never felt hungry, as I filled-up with fruit, veggies and rice cakes.

I have now lost over 2 stones (30 pounds) in weight and I feel great, with my smaller shar-pei handles.

I’m not telling you this to sell you a weight loss plan, or because I feel smug (although I do feel smug because I feel fit, and comfortable in my clothes).  

The message I want to communicate is, when you are ready to make a change, you will find your way to do it.

In the years when I carried that excess weight, there were lots of times when I could have made this change. There were times when I saw friends shed weight and look fantastic, yet it didn’t trigger me to do the same. I wasn’t ready.

Only you will know when you are ready to make any change. It might be eating, smoking, relationship, career or retirement related.  

Until you are ready, don’t beat yourself up about it. 

Enjoy every day of your life on this planet, regardless of where you are on your journey.

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Life-coaching provides support as you are making or managing changes.  My main focus is on mid-life career changes and making your retirement the best time of your lifeContact me if you wish to discuss how I can assist you.

17 August 2020 – Interviewed!

I was interviewed last Friday afternoon, by Cat Cripps of the Business Success Society.

Here’s the link to the interview, with me talking to Cat about my business and retirement coaching (and lots of other stuff too).

Lots of laughter as this was a lot of fun.

Contact me if you would like help with a mid-life career change, or with planning how to make your retirement the best time of your life.

I offer a FREE 45-minute “Exploration Call”, so we can discuss what you are looking for and how we can work together.

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4 August 2020 – Blooming Busy!

3RO August update

I can’t quite believe that it’s almost a month since my last blog post.  In some ways this year has seemed to pass so slowly, and in other ways so fast.

We had our first post-lockdown visitors last week.  Wonderfully surreal not to be able to hug them, but lovely to walk & talk, and then sit and share a meal, and talk some more.

I’ve had a hugely busy month since I decided to build an online course to help people to live their best life in retirement.  It’s a steep learning curve but I’m loving the journey and I feel slightly amazed at what I am creating.  Watch this space!

I’ve been invited by the inspiring Cat Cripps, of the Business Success Society, to have an online chat with her on 14th August in the Facebook group.  That should be fun.  I’m really enjoying being part of Cat’s group.   She creates a great energy and has attracted lots of lovely, interesting, small business people with whom to share ideas.

The two Facebook groups that I run are ticking along nicely:  Retirement UK and Fabulous Blooming Women.  Join us if you feel inclined, and if you meet the criteria.

So, this is a brief blog, just to say “Hi, I’m still here.  Remember, you don’t have to deal with mid-life career changes or retirement planning alone.  I can help.”

You can always check out my services and contact me through my website.

We have been loving our new garden which is so vibrantly colourful at the moment with sweet-peas, nasturtiums, sun-flowers, pansies, fuchsias and the massive wall of passion-flowers that we first saw when we viewed the house last September.  Awesome!   Here are just a few pics.

I hope you are making the best of your summer too.

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Life-coaching provides support as you are making or managing changes.  My main focus is on mid and later life career changes and planning for retirementContact me if you wish to discuss how I can assist you.

12 July 2020 – Interview with a Fabulous Blooming Author

Sarah - Swimming Down Dementia

Last week I was honoured to interview Sarah Kennedy Norquoy from Orkney for my Fabulous Blooming Women Facebook group.  Sarah recently published her first book, about her 2019, when she discovered her passion for sea-swimming and her Mum was diagnosed with dementia.

I have followed Sarah’s blogs for several years now and I knew her book would be worth reading.  I laughed.  I cried.  I related to so much of what she shared about her year.

For me, cycling gives me what sea-swimming gives Sarah; a sense of freedom and being closer to nature.  My late Mum also suffered from dementia.

Sarah’s book highlights how important it is for our own well-being to find a passion that energises and renews us, so we can deal with all the other stuff going on in our lives.

Sarah’s book is available from Amazon at  https://www.amazon.co.uk/Salt-Skin-Sarah-Kennedy-Norquoy/dp/1916267130/.

I’ve edited our 30-minute interview down to 13 minutes (more Sarah, less me) so, grab a coffee, get yourself comfortable and let this fabulous lady tell you about her book in her own words.

24 June 2020 – Two real life retirement examples

Life-Coaching When I am an Old Woman

I love the above poem, “Warning” by Jenny Joseph.  If you haven’t already read it, you can click here to see the full version.  And this sweet lady’s smile is wonderfully joyful.  Being older can be immensely freeing, if we let it.

Today I’d like to share two real-life examples of two very different people I know, both currently in retirement.

The first was a very competent, highly-experienced manager, heading two large, public entertainment organisations, making complex decisions on a daily basis.

Due to an episode of unexpected health issues in their mid-50s, they took early retirement.  Since then their world has shrunk to doing grocery shopping, helping clean their house, and watching day-time TV, not because of continued poor health, but due to loss of confidence.  They have lost most of their, work and hobby related, social-connections because they have let them drop.  They are now operating out of a small comfort-zone, with potentially another 20 to 30 active years of life ahead of them.  They have refused all offers of coaching from myself and others.

This story breaks my heart, because I want to help people to enjoy their retirement years.  I know this person isn’t happy, but it’s not within a life-coach’s remit to dictate how anyone should live their life.  However, there’s always the possibility of change – whenever they are ready.

My second example is that of a former senior actuary who took early retirement, again in their mid-50s, due to having received a diagnosis of a heart-condition which was expected to seriously shorten their life.

They were prescribed medication to manage the heart-condition and he/she then flung themselves into enjoying every minute of life left.  They walked, cycled, golfed, sailed, and travelled the world with friends and family.  They socialised, kept in touch with their wide circle of friends, and celebrated the arrival of three grandchildren.  Exciting adventure holidays were planed meticulously up to a year in advance, and then experienced with relish, loving the excitement of seeing new places and meeting new people.  They usually follow this up, after they arrive home, by throwing a party to share all of their holiday photographs with friends.

Eventually their regular medical check-ups showed that there was no longer a need for any heart medication, as the condition had resolved itself due to their healthy life-style.   We have shared many hours together in coaching and non-coaching discussions.

These are two very different, real retirement stories.  And the crucial difference is the level of passion and engagement in life.

I’m passionate about the retirement-related coaching I do, because I know it can literally save lives.

Of my two exemplars above, which do you think will have the longest, and most enjoyable, life expectancy?

If you are approaching retirement, or even if you have already retired but are finding that you are feeling lost and bored, contact me and together we can create a plan to ensure that this chapter is the best time of your life.    I offer a FREE, no-obligation “Exploration Call”.  Call me on 07599 765 915 or send me a message on my Contact Page. to book an appointment.

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P.S.  I have just uploaded two new FREE resources to my website.  “What is Life-Coaching? and “Your Comfort-Zone and How to Use It”.   Both were prompted by questions I have been asked repeatedly recently.  I hope you find them useful.  Enjoy!

10 June 2020 – Life is like underwear

3RO Blog - Life is like underwear

After weeks in lockdown, I was getting fat and slobby.  I realised I had started dreading getting dressed every morning, and I knew I needed to make a change.

The first thing to change had to be those dreaded under-clothes.  It was time to treat myself to some new lingerie.  Yes, new bras and pants.  Instead of strapping on washed-out, tired knickers and passed-their-best over-the-shoulder-boulder-holders again, I treated myself to some new, lovely, fresh under-garments.

That first step spurred me on, to make more changes to the rest of my wardrobe, my diet and activity habits.  I have now lost more than 8lbs in over four weeks and I look forward to getting up and dressed each morning.

Any change always needs to come from within oursleves, and sometimes a simple physical change can help initiate the larger psychological change we want.

Since that one simple, initial change, I have started to dress more smartly, for myself, regardless of whether I’m going out or joining in Zoom meetings.  For me, the clothes I choose to wear, from base-layer to cardi, assist me to find the positive, proactive mind-set I want.

It can be easy to devolve to casual ways when we aren’t going out and meeting people, but what I’ve realised is, I don’t dress to look nice for other people.  I dress for myself, as a way of showing respect for and taking pride in myself.  (As I type this, it occurs to me this is something that my granny might have said, but it’s nonetheless true for that.)

So, to summarise, I re-connected with my inner-fabulousness again by changing my underwear.  That might work for you too or, for you, maybe there’s another change you need to make.  And what would that be?

If you can’t make that change on your own, let’s talk about how I can help you.  I offer a FREE, no-obligation “Exploration Call”.  Call me on 07599 765 915 or send me a message on my Contact Page. to book an appointment.

In the meantime, keep following the guidance, stay safe, be kind

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P.S.  I have recently set up a new Facebook group called Fabulous Blooming Women.  It’s aimed at 40+ ladies who are in full-bloom (like myself) to provide mutual support, encouragement and bounce a few ideas around.   If this sounds like you and something you would enjoy, please join us at https://www.facebook.com/groups/fabulousbloomingwomen/ .

27 May 2020 – Free Exploration Call

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It’s been a while since I posted about what I am offering to clients.  Here’s a reminder.

What you do when your body is aching and tired?  You pay attention to it.  Give it some TLC (tender, loving care) and maybe pamper it with a spa day.

What happens when your mind is aching and tired from weighing up options, making decisions, dealing with setbacks, celebrating victories:  moving relentlessly forward towards… what exactly?   You probably simply carry on.  Pull yourself together (like a pair of curtains)?  Soldier on bravely?

I have a better way.  I provide life-coaching which is the equivalent of a spa day for your mind.  I will stroke it, shake it, pummel it, poke it, balance hot stones on it, and slap it (metaphorically, of course) until it zings (gently).

Every coaching session I deliver is unique because we are all different.  No-one else has your history, experiences and is in your exact current position.

I will share down-to-earth, practical tools and skills that you will want to adopt, to raise your energy levels and enable you to take positive control of your life.

Choosing a life-coach is like choosing a pair of shoes.  You need the right one for the psychological terrain you are going to be traversing.  You’re going on a virtual-journey and you will want to feel comfortable.  That’s why I offer a free, no-obligation 45-minute “Exploration Call” on Zoom or Skype.  It allows you to be sure, before you pay anything at all, that you can confidently trust me to be your coach.

Let’s talk about how I can help you.  Call me on 07599 765 915 or send me a message on my Contact Page.

I’m looking forward to hearing from you soon.

In the meantime, please follow the guidance, stay safe, be kind

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P.S.  I have just set up a new Facebook group called Fabulous Blooming Women.  It’s aimed at 40+ ladies who are in full-bloom (like myself) to provide mutual support, encouragement and bounce a few ideas around.   If this sounds like you and something you would enjoy, please join us at https://www.facebook.com/groups/fabulousbloomingwomen/ .

22 May 2020 – Happy Birthday to me!

Happy Birthday to me 60

I’m not usually one to make a fuss about my birthdays, but I have to acknowledge that 60 is a major milestone in life.

I have memories of so many lovely people that haven’t made it this far, and I truly appreciate still being here-and-healthy.  I know many inspirational sexagenarians who are rocking their seventh decade, so I’m looking forward to what comes next.

I could never have predicted that I’d be celebrating this day in lockdown with my hubby but, in truth, apart from not being on a beach, it’s just perfect.

One of the coaching exercises I sometimes use with clients is asking them to imagine celebrating their 70th birthday. “Who will be there?  What will you be doing?  What will you be seeing?  What will you be hearing?  What will you be feeling?”  It’s now interesting for me to think that, touch wood, my next big birthday will be my 70th.   Inside my head I still feel about 25.  (Covering the mirrors helps. )

I’ve delivered a lot of retirement-related coaching over the years yet, as my own journey continues, I am realising that all the planning in the world cannot reflect the reality.  Now, don’t get me wrong.  I’m definitely not saying “Don’t plan.”  Plans give us focus and purpose.  Plans are like a rudder on a ship.  Just remember to be flexible and be able to go with the flow.

To continue the marine analogy, sometimes we can be on a gentle, smooth paddleboat, other days a whizzy, bumpy speedboat, and some days can feel like third-class on the Titanic after the iceberg, but stay calm and aim for the captain’s table on the Love Boat, because all the rough bits do pass.

Whatever stage of life you are at currently, and whatever is happening for you just now during these unprecedented times, my birthday wish is that you can embrace it and learn from it.  It’s how you react to events, good and bad, that determines the quality of your life.

What do I mean by “quality of life”?  Well, give me a call and we can talk about that, amongst other things.

Contact me to book a free, no-obligation “Exploratory Call” (usually about 45 minutes) to discuss where you’re at and where you want to be.

In the meantime, please follow the guidance, stay safe, be kind.

Life-coaching provides support as you are making or managing changes.  My main focus is on mid and later life career changes and planning for retirementContact me if you wish to discuss how I can assist you.

29 March 2020 – Time to start your journal

Journaling the virus

My hubby and I are following the Government guidelines regarding distancing and keeping to home as much as possible, to reduce the spread of COVID-19 and decrease the strain on our precious NHS.  Milly and Bella, our lovely cats, are keeping us busy playing games.  They’ve never seen me inside the house so much.

I normally offer online coaching so, from 3RO’s point of view, it’s life-coaching as usual.

Make the most of your time in “splendid isolation”.   As always, you can contact me via my website to discuss how I can assist you.

I usually recommend daily journaling as a means of crystallising, clarifying and clearing issues and now journaling is more relevant than ever.  We are living through a remarkable period of world history and a journal recording your daily actions, observations, thoughts and feelings will be an interesting and valuable creation for generations to come.

Everyone’s perspective of what’s happening will be different.  Start recording your part of this history today.

You might want to handwrite your journal with an elegant pen, on crisp paper sewn into a beautiful binder, or simply input your words to your laptop.  Whatever works best for you is fine.  It’s your journal.

If you’ve always felt you have a book in you, perhaps this is it?  (Let’s hope this episode is going to be a short story, rather than a lengthy saga.  😊)

In the meantime, please follow the guidance, stay safe, be kind.

Life-coaching provides support as you are making or managing changes.  My main focus is on mid and later life career changes and planning for retirement, as this can be the most challenging, and yet enjoyable, time of our lives.  Contact me if you wish to discuss how I can assist you, wherever you are, through Skype or Zoom