24 June 2020 – Two real life retirement examples
I love the above poem, “Warning” by Jenny Joseph. If you haven’t already read it, you can click here to see the full version. And this sweet lady’s smile is wonderfully joyful. Being older can be immensely freeing, if we let it.
Today I’d like to share two real-life examples of two very different people I know, both currently in retirement.
The first was a very competent, highly-experienced manager, heading two large, public entertainment organisations, making complex decisions on a daily basis.
Due to an episode of unexpected health issues in their mid-50s, they took early retirement. Since then their world has shrunk to doing grocery shopping, helping clean their house, and watching day-time TV, not because of continued poor health, but due to loss of confidence. They have lost most of their, work and hobby related, social-connections because they have let them drop. They are now operating out of a small comfort-zone, with potentially another 20 to 30 active years of life ahead of them. They have refused all offers of coaching from myself and others.
This story breaks my heart, because I want to help people to enjoy their retirement years. I know this person isn’t happy, but it’s not within a life-coach’s remit to dictate how anyone should live their life. However, there’s always the possibility of change – whenever they are ready.
My second example is that of a former senior actuary who took early retirement, again in their mid-50s, due to having received a diagnosis of a heart-condition which was expected to seriously shorten their life.
They were prescribed medication to manage the heart-condition and he/she then flung themselves into enjoying every minute of life left. They walked, cycled, golfed, sailed, and travelled the world with friends and family. They socialised, kept in touch with their wide circle of friends, and celebrated the arrival of three grandchildren. Exciting adventure holidays were planed meticulously up to a year in advance, and then experienced with relish, loving the excitement of seeing new places and meeting new people. They usually follow this up, after they arrive home, by throwing a party to share all of their holiday photographs with friends.
Eventually their regular medical check-ups showed that there was no longer a need for any heart medication, as the condition had resolved itself due to their healthy life-style. We have shared many hours together in coaching and non-coaching discussions.
These are two very different, real retirement stories. And the crucial difference is the level of passion and engagement in life.
I’m passionate about the retirement-related coaching I do, because I know it can literally save lives.
Of my two exemplars above, which do you think will have the longest, and most enjoyable, life expectancy?
If you are approaching retirement, or even if you have already retired but are finding that you are feeling lost and bored, contact me and together we can create a plan to ensure that this chapter is the best time of your life. I offer a FREE, no-obligation “Exploration Call”. Call me on 07599 765 915 or send me a message on my Contact Page. to book an appointment.
P.S. I have just uploaded two new FREE resources to my website. “What is Life-Coaching? and “Your Comfort-Zone and How to Use It”. Both were prompted by questions I have been asked repeatedly recently. I hope you find them useful. Enjoy!