Blog Spot 2018-08-14T19:57:27+00:00

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12  August 2018 –  Are you a hamster?

Are you a hamster

Most of us lead busy lives, either through choice or necessity.

It can be all too easy to get caught up in the daily “small stuff” and forget what our larger goals are.  When that happens, we are like little hamsters, running on a wheel.  Sometimes running faster. Sometimes slower.  Sometimes stopping to catch our breath. Not thinking about where we are heading and why we are doing what we are doing.

Rather than allow yourself to be swept along by a list of perceived “must”s and “should”s, I invite you to hop off the hamster wheel, at least once a week.  Give yourself a pause – quiet time to take a look at the bigger picture, and ask some big questions of yourself?

For example:

  • Where am I headed?
  • How is what I’m going currently moving me towards where I want to be?
  • How long will I be doing this before I make a change?
  • What could I be doing differently to be more effective/happier?

Connecting with your higher aspirations with a regular break to review your priorities gives your daily actions purpose and allows you to enjoy a sense of achievement as you purposefully work towards your larger life goals.

Celebrating small victories everyday can make the journey towards your goals enjoyable and rewarding.

You’re not a hamster, so don’t act like one.

Hop off.  😊

I am a life-coach working with people who are  serious about making major career changes, pre- and post-retirement. See my web-site https://www.3ro.co.uk/ for more information about the services I offer.

23 July 2018 –  Where do you draw the line?

Choices - Where do you draw the line?

I received a call this week from a lady seeking advice.  As we talked I offered her a contact number which I thought she might find useful.  She replied “I can’t write that down just now, I’m driving.”

I immediately asked if she could pull in, but she replied that she couldn’t.  I then said that I would terminate the call because I feel that it is unsafe to drive and talk on the phone.  The lady angrily replied that it is perfectly legal for her to drive and use her phone hands-free.

One of the many joys we each have as human beings is in choosing what behaviours we are willing to accept and where we draw the line.  My line is firmly drawn at not speaking to people on the phone when they are driving.   It may be legal, but it’s not acceptable to me.

I know that I cannot carry out a coherent conversation and give full attention to my driving.  I realise that others may be more versatile and adept than me in this respect, but I never want to be on the other end of the phone when a driver hits a child/adult/animal/bicycle/motor-bike/car/object for want of a milli-second of attention that was diverted to a phone call with me.

There are very few telephone calls that cannot be delayed until after the end of a car journey.

Would you have carried on with the telephone conversation?

Which lines do you choose to draw? Where and why?

I am a life-coach working with people who are  serious about making major career changes, pre- and post-retirement. See my web-site https://www.3ro.co.uk/ for more information about the services I offer.

8 July 2018 –  How many summers?

Stay open to changeThe Rose-Bay-Willow-Herb (pictured) had made its annual appearance around us this July – apparently unhindered by our late spring. These tall, elegant, purple flowers add a gorgeous burst of colour to our road-sides and hedgerows. Every year as they re-appear it feels like a visit from a fabulous old friend.

As the years pass I am becoming more aware of the limit to the number of summers ahead of me. At 58, can I expect 12 more years of seeing the Rose-Bay-Willow Herb appear (my three-score year and ten)? My Mum died when she was 95, so perhaps I still have almost 40 years of summers to enjoy? Perhaps my time will be up next week? None of us can ever know for sure how long we have. And that means I cherish every day.

Having recently taken on a new role, I am busier than ever, loving discovering new knowledge and learning new skills. It was exactly what I needed to take me out of my comfort zone and get “my little grey cells” hopping. It’s satisfying to be able to amaze myself with my new abilities. I’m working beside people of a whole range of ages, and we each bring our own strengths to bear.

If you keep your mind open to possibilities, it’s never too late to turn over a new page and start a fresh chapter in your life. The choice of possibilities is always yours.

  • What possibilities can you see ahead? Look again. There will be more to find.
  • What are you relishing about this summer?  Take a note of each of your summer-treasures, so you can remember to look out for them again next year. (Keeping a journal every day gives you a wonderful resource for peeking back to see what you were enjoying at the same time in previous years.)
  • What would you be doing differently today if you knew you only had three more summers to enjoy?

Food for thought, isn’t it.

Life is precious. Enjoy it at your own pace and live a life you love.

If you aren’t relishing your life every day and would like assistance to make a career change, or to prepare for a new phase of life in “retirement”, contact me for an initial discussion to explore how you can revitalise your life.

15 June 2018 –  Look After You!

lOOK AFTER YOU!Feeling drained and exhausted?

We can all feel empty, exhausted, with nothing left to give

Your energy reserves are low, and you want to stop.

But you don’t stop, because you can’t. There are things to do and people relying on you.

The Solution.

Give yourself time each day, specifically just for you, to enable our mind and body to recharge. It’s not selfish. It’s necessary.

It might be ten minutes, half an hour, an hour?

Decide how long you need and create a haven of peace and calm for you.

Do whatever feeds your soul. It might be listening to music, reading, yoga, walking, etc.

You choose, because only you know what will serve you best.

The Result.

Once you have cared for yourself, you are fully able to care for others effectively.

You’ll be happier and nicer to be around, so you’re really doing everyone else a huge favour.

Summary.

Time for yourself is important because you are important. You may not realise it because, especially when your energy levels are low, your perspective can be overly subjective and self-critical. That’s all the more reason to give yourself time to recharge.

Be kind to you. Take a pause. Listen to your body. It’s always busy working for you: healing, recovering, recuperating, digesting, breathing, renewing and recharging.

And let your mind take a rest from thinking. Instead simply acknowledge thoughts as they flitter across your mind, like white, fluffy clouds drifting across a clear blue sky. There’s no need to react to them. They are just thoughts. You can watch them come and go

And when you feel you are ready, you can re-engage with the world, refreshed, re-fuelled and relaxed.

Sounds simple doesn’t it. Yet it’s amazing how many people forget to practice this very easy, basic level of self-care.

Give it a try and you’ll be amazed at the difference you will experience, even within a few days. I’d love to know the changes you notice, if you’d like to share.

I am a life-coach specialising in retirement planning and career change. View https://www.3ro.co.uk/ for full details of services offered and contact me to arrange an initial consultation.

25 May 2018 –  If you are approaching retirement, or recently retired, your help is needed!

retirement-study-Northumbria-UniversityFollowers of 3RO Ltd,  and readers of my blogs, will know that I created a Facebook group called “Retirement UK”.

Anyone can apply to join the group as long as they have a genuine interest in issues related to retirement in the UK.

I regularly decline requests for membership from hunky, young, often naval, personnel from around the world who perhaps think it might be used as a dating site.   I feel as though I act as a guardian to prevent group members seeing spam on the group page. Anyone who is allowed entry and subsequently starts trying to sell things to members gets blocked as soon as I notice.

So, I looked carefully at the request I received recently from Anastasia Fadeeva or Northumbria University in Newcastle. Anastasia is a student and she is looking for input from individuals approaching retirement, or who have just retirement.

She has also added this additional information: The study focuses on retirement, specifically transitions from employment to retirement and the promotion of physical activity. We are currently looking to recruit participants for a longitudinal study which will assess numerous variables that might be associated with a more positive retirement transition. We hope this information will help future retirees in planning for a healthy retirement both physically and mentally. Please see the attached poster and contact me for more details”

I am passionate about holistic retirement planning. That means not only focusing on the financial issues, but also ensuring that individuals stay engaged and motivated throughout their Third Age and maintain the best quality of life for themselves.

The more well researched information there is available about what is happening for people at “retirement” the better served our society is likely to be in this respect. I whole-heartedly welcome Anastasia’s interest and so, as well as advertising this study in the Facebook group I am also spreading the word on all my social media outlets.

I hope you will be able to participate or will pass this information on to someone you know who may be eligible and interested.

Please contact Anastasia directly to offer your help and take part in this study.

19 May 2018 – Change Can Take Time.

Change can take timeLife-coaching is a blend of art and science.  People are complex beings.  Change can take time and may only occur when you are completely ready to let it.

As a coach it isn’t always easy for me to tick the box for “job done”.  That’s why I stay in touch with clients, if they are happy for me to do so.  I’m interested to know “what happens next” for them.

I coached an amazing lady last year.  She had was working to a tight budget, so our coaching time together was limited, but we’ve stayed in touch.  In a recent email she mentioned that she still thinks about her coaching sessions with me.  I was thrilled and asked whether she felt that she had benefited from her investment in life-coaching, because that is so important to me.  This was her lovely response:

“Yes, I do feel you and your coaching helped me.    If I am honest not at the time, but I got there eventually.   It takes me time to process everything, but your words, support and wisdom did come into play more than I will ever be able to tell you months later.”

People often ask me what life-coaching is.  Rather than try to explain I invite them to experience an initial life-coaching session, without obligation.

If you’re feeling curious about life-coaching and are ready to make a change in your life, whether it’s retirement related or a career change, contact me and let’s arrange an experience for you.

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Read more about me and the services I offer at https://www.3ro.co.uk/